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How does a Father Teach his Children Tawheed?
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Shaykh Allama Muhammad bin Salih al-Uthaymeen -Rahimullaah- was asked:
How does a father teach his children Tawheed?
He answered:

 ● ‘He teaches them Tawheed just like he teaches them other matters of the Deen. From the best of what is in this subject is the book ‘The Three Principles’ by Shaykh-ul-Islaam Muhammad bin AbdulWahab. If he makes them memorise it by heart and explains to them its meanings appropriately to their understanding and their intellects.
Then there comes a lot of goodness from this. This is because this book is built upon questions and answers, and clear easy expressions, which have no complexity.

Then the father shows them the Ayaat of Allaah (His signs) so that he can practically implement what is mentioned in this small book.
For example,  the sun, the father asks, who created it? Likewise the moon,  the stars,  the night and day, you say to them:
‘The sun, who created it? Allaah.
The moon?   Allaah,  the night?  Allaah, the day?  Allaah.  Allaah -Azza wa Jal- created all of these. This is so that one can water the tree of the Fitrah (the natural disposition) because the human himself has been created with his natural disposition upon Tawheed of Allaah -Azza wa Jal.

Like the Prophet -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam- said:
(كل مولود يولد على الفطرة ، فأبواه يهودانه أوينصرانه أو يمجسانه)
‘Every newborn is born upon the Fitrah (natural disposition), so it is his parents who either make him into a Jew or into a Christian or into a Majoos (fire worshipper).’

● Also he teaches them Wudu, how to make Wudu by demonstration and saying: This is how one does Wudu, and he performs the Wudu in front of him.

● Likewise the Salah (prayer), along with taking aid with Allaah Ta’ala, and asking Allaah -Azza wa Jal- for guidance for them. Also, that one keeps away from any statement which opposes good behaviour or every prohibited action, so he should not get them used to lying,  cheating and treachery,  nor lowly manners.
Even if the father was trialed by prohibited actions, like if he was trialed by smoking,  he should not smoke in front of them because they will get used to it and it will become easy upon them to do it as well.
 One should know that every man of a household is responsible for the people of the house, due to the saying of Allah Tabaraka wa Ta’ala:


(يَا أَيُّهَاالَّذِينَ آمَنُوا قُوا أَنفُسَكُمْ وَأَهْلِيكُمْ نَاراً)
《 O you who believe! Ward off from yourselves and your families a Fire (Hell)》[Tahreem: 6]
Our protecting them from the fire cannot be except if we get them used to righteous actions and to leave off bad actions. The Messenger of Allaah -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam- affirmed that in his saying:

(الرجل راع في أهله ومسؤول عن رعيته)
‘A man is a shepherd for his family and he is responsible for his flock.’
A father should know that their being righteous is beneficial to him in this world and the hereafter Indeed from the closest of people to their fathers and mothers are the righteous children, male and female.

(وإذا مات الإنسان انقطع عمله إلا من ثلاث: صدقة جارية، أو علم ينتفع به،أو ولد صالح يدعو له )
‘When a person dies his actions cease except for three: continuous charity,  or knowledge people benefit from,  or a righteous child who supplicates for him.’

We ask Allah Ta’ala to aid all of us upon carrying out the trust and responsibility.’


[Silsilah Noor ala Darb. Tape: 350 side A]

Translated By Abbas Abu Yahya

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Link to download the book ‘The Three Principles’ by Shaykh-ul-Islaam Muhammad bin AbdulWahab: http://abdurrahman.org/tawheed/the3fundprinciples.pdf

Link to download the questions & answers from the book ‘The Three Principles’ by Shaykh-ul-Islaam Muhammad bin AbdulWahab: http://islamthestudyguides.files.wordpress.com/2011/12/u3-mcq2.pdf

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Observing that which is Apparent in Marriage
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بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

While explaining the hadeeth of Fatimah bint Qaes (may Allah be pleased with her); in which she approached the Prophet  صلى الله عليه و سلم and informed him that individuals have approached her for marriage, upon hearing the names of these individuals the Prophetصلى الله عليه و سلم  replied:

As for Abu Jahil, he does not remove the stick from his shoulder (he beats women), and as for Mu’awiyah, he is poor. Instead, marry Usamah. (Saheeh Muslim)


Sheikh ‘Uthaymeen commented (in summary):

If it were said: How can the Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم   say: “As for Mu’awiyah, he is poor”, while he (the Prophet) doesn’t know? It’s possible he (Mu’awiyah) will become wealthy (in the future). And actually, this did take place. Mu’awiyah became a ruler; in fact he became one of the wealthiest rulers.

Thus, we say: From this hadeeth a vital benefit can be derived, which is: That which should be considered is what is apparent, not what will possibly occur in the future. Pay close attention to this principle. An individual is not commissioned to (consider) matters of the unseen, but rather, he is responsible for that which is in front of him.

Consequently, we know the answer for a commonly mentioned question (issue). This occurs when a man who is not practicing seeks to marry a practicing female. The female would like to marry him and thus she says: It’s possible that Allah will guide this man by way of me. This action (him changing) may or may not occur in the future. She does not know, but that which is presently apparent is that this individual is not practicing. If the female was to say: It is possible that Allah will guide him by way of me, we will respond: It is (also) possible that Allah will lead you astray by way of him! Both of these outcomes are possible, and you (the female) being led astray by way of the man is more likely, due to the fact that the authority and influence of the man over the woman is much greater than her authority and influence over him. Likewise, how many men put pressure on their wives to perform something that the husband wants, and due to his pressure, the female falls into something she herself dislikes. This is something which is known and proven. The most important benefit in this issue is that a person is responsible for that which is apparent, not that which will may or may not occur in the future.

Source: Fathul Thee Jalalee wal Ikram bi Sharh Bulough al Maram vol. 11, pg. 201


Translator’s note:

May Allah have mercy upon our beloved Sheikh and father Sheikh Muhammad bin Saleh al ‘Uthaymeen. Indeed his statements and clarifications are filled with wisdom and sound understanding. The advice of the Sheikh can also be applied to the common day belief of many sisters (when approached for marriage by individuals not upon the methodology of the Salaf): I know he’s not Salafi, but ان شاء الله  he will come to the minhaj through my guidance and direction! Then after a few months, we find the sister attending the gatherings of the people of innovation and those supporting them! We have even witnessed sisters falling into major shirk, innovation, and defending the callers to hizbiyah due to being married to individuals not upon the methodology of the Salaf. Similarly is the statement of some females, when approached for marriage by an individual who has a proven reputation of mistreatment of women, you find some women saying: I will be the one to change him! Or: He will never treat me the way he treated others! These spurious statements and the likes are clear examples of how females place themselves in dreadful predicaments as it relates to marriages.
May Allah guide our women to that which is better, and may He keep us all firm upon the straight path.
 
Mustafa George DeBerry @http://knowledgeofislamblog.wordpress.com
Riyadh, Kingdom of Saudi Arabia
17th of Dhil Hijjah | Oct. 22, 2013

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Woe to Every Unjust Husband
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Taken from Sheikh Uthamin’s tafsir of Sura Al Mutaffiffun (chapter 83)

Allah says what can be translated as:

1) Woe to Al Mutaffififun (those who give less in measure and weight)  
2) Those who when they have to receive by measure from men demand full measure  
3) And when they have to give by measure or weight to men give less than due  
4) Do they not think that they will be resurrected (for reckoning)  
5) On a great day 6 The day when (all) mankind will stand before the Lord of the Alamin (all that exits)

Sheikh Uthamin said concerning the explanation of Chapter Al-Mutaffinfin (Woe) The word woe is repeated in the Quran many times and according to what is most correct it is a statement of threat by which Allah threatens those whom oppose His command or indulge in what He has prohibited them from.

And the prohibition is mentioned in the sentence following the threat. Therefore in this case Allah the Exalted says woe be to Al Mutaffififun

So who are these Al Mutaffififun?

These Al Mutaffififun are explained in the next verse He said :

(Those who when they have to receive by measure from men demand full measure)
(And when they have to give by measure or weight to men they give less than what is due)
(Those who when they have to receive by measure from men demand full measure)

Meaning when they buy from the people that which is weighed they demand from the people their rights in full without any deficiency (And when they have to give by measure or weight to men they give less than what is due) But if they are weighing or they are the ones selling the weighed meat or selling something which is measured they give a weight that is deficient (they give less than what is due) Therefore they demand their rights in full and they are deficient in giving others their rights So they combined two affairs they combine greed and stinginess. Greed in demanding his rights in full without any leniency or forgiveness and stinginess because he does not give the full weight that is incumbent upon him. This example that Allah the Exalted mentions concerning the weigh and measure is just an example therefore it also applies to everything which is similar to this. Therefore everyone who demands their rights in full when they are due to receive rights but they don’t give full rights when the rights are due from them then they are included in these noble verses.

An example of this is the husband who wants from his wife that she gives him all of his rights in full and he is not lenient in any of his rights. But when it is time to give his wife her rights then he is lackadaisical and he does not give her that which is due her. And there are so many complaints from the women about this type of husband. And with Allah refuge is sought.

To the extent that many of the husbands want from their wives that they give them all of their rights but they don’t give their wives all of their rights and possibility the husbands will fall short in giving their wives most of the basic rights such as spending on them and living with them in kindness and other than that.

Verily oppressing another person is more severe than a person oppressing himself concerning the rights of Allah because the person oppressing himself concerning the rights of Allah is beneath the will of Allah if it is a sin other that shirk. If Allah wants to He will forgive the person and if He wants to He will punish the person. But in regards to the rights of the people there has to be compensation given. And for this reason the Prophet peace and blessing are upon him said (to his companions) who do you consider to be the bankrupt person. They said the one from us who does not have any currency or any possessions.

He (the Prophet peace and blessings are upon him) said Verily the bankrupt person from my nation is the one who will come on the Day of Judgment with good deeds the size of a mountain (meaning a lot of good deeds). So he will come with these good deeds but he has oppressed this person and he abused this person and he hit this person and he took the wealth from this person. Therefore this person he oppressed will take from his good deeds and that person will take from his good deeds and this person will take from his good deeds and if his good deeds run out before he repays that which he owes then he will be given the sins of those he wronged and their sins will be flung on top of him and then he will be flung into the fire.

So my advice to those who are lackadaisical or negligent concerning the rights of there spouses is that they fear Allah the Mighty and Majestic because the Prophet peace and blessings are upon him advised with this during the biggest gathering that the Islamic world witnessed during the lifetime of the Messenger of Allah peace and blessings are upon him on the day of Arafat during the farewell pilgrimage.

He said fear Allah concerning the women because verily you took them as a trust from Allah and you have been permitted to have intimate relationships with them by the word of Allah.

Also you will find that some of the parents desire for their children to give them all of their rights in a perfect manner. So they want for their children to honor them and give them their rights and to give them money and to give physical help and everything type of honor possible but he is neglectful concerning his children and he does not give his children their rights. We say that this person is Al Mutaf (those who give less in measure and weight) That father who wants for his children to honor him to the maximum all the while he is neglectful concerning their rights we say to him you are Al Mutaf (those who give less in measure and weight).

We say to him remember the statement of Allah the Exalted (what can be translated as)

1) Woe to Al Mutaffififun (those who give less in measure and weight)  
2) Those who when they have to receive by measure from men demand full measure  
3) And when they have to give by measure or weight to men give less than due

Translated by Rasheed Barbee
The following is a summary translation taken from www.ibnothaimeen.com
http://mtws.posthaven.com/woe-to-every-unjust-husband

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